A Handbook to My Kids for Building Their Network
- Bobby & Lisa Campbell
- Nov 18, 2024
- 3 min read
Updated: Apr 11
Dear Reagan, Valor, & Ariella,
As you grow, the people you surround yourself with will play a huge role in shaping the person you become. Building your network isn’t just about having friends—it’s about connecting with the right people who help you grow, make you better, and inspire you to do the same for them. This handbook is a guide to help you recognize and build meaningful, impactful relationships that will enrich your life and help you reach your full potential.
1. What is a Network?
A network is a group of people connected by relationships, shared values, and mutual goals. It’s not about knowing the most people; it’s about building connections with the right people. Think of your network as a team of like-minded individuals who help each other succeed in life.
Jesus showed us the best example of networking: He didn’t just impact people 1-on-1—He multiplied His influence by empowering others to share His message and add value to those around them. If he didn't multiply, then his impact would have stopped 2000 years ago. That’s the goal of building a network: multiplication. When you invest in people who also invest in others, your impact grows far beyond what you could achieve alone.
2. What to Look for in Friends and Connections
Here’s what you should look for in the people you want in your network:
A. Deeper Conversations
Look for friends who go beyond small talk.
They enjoy discussing meaningful topics like dreams, goals, ideas, and the world around them.
These conversations will challenge you to think critically and grow.
B. Motivated and Hardworking
Surround yourself with people who are hungry to improve themselves and achieve their goals.
They don’t need to be perfect, but they should have a drive to work hard and get ahead in life.
C. Rule Breakers (but not Trouble Makers)
It’s okay to have friends who challenge norms and think differently.
Avoid people who break rules to hurt others or get into trouble. Look for contrarian thinkers—those who go against the grain because they believe in a better way.
D. They Make You Better
A great friend should push you to grow and improve.
You should also make them better. Together, you should bring out the best in each other.
E. Smart, Humble, Hungry, and Appreciative
Smart: They’re curious and love learning.
Humble: They don’t think they’re better than anyone else.
Hungry: They want more out of life and work to get it.
Appreciative: They value you for who you are, not just what you can do for them.
Being “appreciative” means more than being thankful—it means their actions show they want to grow and help others grow too.
3. How to Build Your Network
A. Be Selective
Not everyone should be part of your close network.
Look for people who share your values and have the qualities listed above.
B. Build Through Action
Relationships grow through shared experiences.
Work together on projects, sports, studies, or activities that push you both to grow.
C. Look for Networkers
A great networker isn’t just about themselves—they multiply what they have and who they are by sharing it with others.
They connect people and create opportunities for everyone to grow.
D. Stay Encouraging
Encouragement is powerful. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and believe in you.
Be that person for others too. Everyone needs someone who cheers them on.
4. The Three Keys to Success in Networking
To succeed in life and in building your network, you need to do three things:
Do Enough Work
You have to put in consistent effort. Nothing happens if you don’t work for it.
Do the Right Work
Focus on activities that work, matter, and align with your goals.
Do Enough of the Right Work Relatably
Be approachable and relatable. Build genuine relationships while working hard.
If you miss any of these three keys, your efforts will fall short. But if you master them, you’ll build a network that multiplies your growth and impact.
5. Final Thoughts: Multiplication Over Comfort
Our family’s focus is on leaving a legacy, not just living in comfort.
We aim to make a difference, not just for ourselves, but for others.
Look for friends and connections who share this mindset.
Together, you’ll grow into people who leave the world better because you lived, not just because you were comfortable while you lived.
Remember, networking isn’t just about what you can get—it’s about what you can give. Build relationships with people who make you better, and always strive to help them grow too. That’s how you create a network that lasts and multiplies your impact.
You’ve got what it takes to build something amazing. I believe in you, and I’m here to help every step of the way.
Love,
Dad
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